You’re not meeting somebody at the altar at a gun point when you’re having a first date, right? But why do you put so much pressure on yourself because of the dating expectations your friends told you? Read this before you go on a first date with this super cool guy tomorrow.
So what are your expectations on a first date?
A guy on his knees asking for your hand?
Oh please honey, if a guy does that on a first date, just run away.
Block him.
Kidding aside, some of you don’t even know what to expect on a first date.
It’s normal when it doesn’t flow as you had planned it in your mind for days while texting him.
It can be awkward but heck, you would laugh over it when you reminisce those days.
So here’s what you will expect during first dates.
Awkwardness and nervousness
I know you’ve been exchanging memes and IG reels with this guy already but you haven’t met him in person yet.
So it’s totally alright if you get nervous prior to meeting the person. You don’t know what to expect from this person so having anxiety is really normal.
Besides you hope that the date would end well so it’s totally understandable that you wanted to make it right but in doing so you’re having nerves as well.
You should also expect that it might get awkward too while greeting the person you’ve been writing with for days already. You will expect brief silences in between your conversations or awkward gazing up and about and a shy nervous smile.
Should you hug him or kiss him on the cheek? Wait, should he hug you already on the first meeting?
Those thoughts might run on your head before and while meeting him.
My tips: Just stay cool (hard but try) and go with the flow. If you think he’s open and gentleman, a slight hug which is not too tight and a peck on the cheek wouldn’t be that bad.
Getting to know each other
You don’t have to ask him right away how many kids he would like to have (with you). Girl, don’t make it too easy for him to block you right away. But if it’s a significant question to you and he finds it kinda odd, then he’s not the person for you.
If you’re not sure what to ask on the first date, you can read this for more ideas on what to ask on your first meeting.
But asking and making sure he’s really single is essential. I don’t know about you but I put emphasis on that. Some guys could really be SOB, you know what I mean. So when my mother asked me if I’m really sure that my beau is single when I first met him, I literally had to roll my eyes.
So girls, you should know immediately if that guy is single and ready for a commitment with you. But you shouldn’t expect that you will learn some essential things in an hour.
But here are some things you gotta need to know during the first date:
- Background
- Work or profession
- Goals in life
- Hobbies and Interests
- His own expectations
Read related post: Funny Questions To Ask On A First Date To Remove Awkwardness
Body language and reactions
Body languages and your own reaction to your date reveal how comfortable and compatible you are with each other.
Does he smile and look at you when you talk to him?
Does he look around and keep throwing glances at that gorgeous waitress?
Do you feel relaxed while talking to him? How about him? Does he fidget in his seat while you ask him about his life and past relationships?
Those cues are necessary to know if a second date is worth it.
If he fidgets in his seat it could mean he’s nervous or you’re making him nervous. It might be a bit disappointing for girls to see a nervous man ’cause you all want to see a confident man, right?
But, don’t you know that if a man is nervous around you, he might be really into you. Take note, girls.
On the other hand, if a man is nervous while talking to you, it could also mean he’s hiding something or doesn’t want to spill everything about him.
During first date you would love to know if a second date is expected.
Do you feel comfortable while he ”accidentally” touches your hand? Can you imagine doing more subtle touches with this guy and are those thoughts not making you cringe from displeasure?
FYI, if he ”accidentally” touches you like your arm or hand, he might be flirting with you and want to gauge your reaction. So if you’re ok with that girl, just enjoy the feeling.
Compatibility and Chemistry
Chatting a guy and meeting him in person are two different things. You wouldn’t want to spend months or years just writing with him unless you don’t really have the intention in doing so.
If you date to marry and you find cues already while chatting with him that you like to meet and know him in person, you’ll be dying to know if you’re compatible with each other, right?
So girl, assess your compatibility with each other. Days of chatting and flirting with him online are not enough if you’re made for each other.
How do you know if you’re compatible with each other?
Simple. Know his interests and hobbies. Do you think you can live with these hobbies and you imagine yourself taking part in his interests?
Do you laugh together? Shared humor is important in a relationship. Laughter builds connection and eases awkwardness and nervousness.
Last but not least, do you have the same relationship goals?
If you date to find the right person to marry but he’s just for temporary fun, then you gotta forget this person.
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What usually happens on a first date?
Everyone is different. Your expectations may be different from my expectations on a first date or from your prospective date. Important is, you enjoy the moment, you are comfortable during the process and you think of your safety while meeting a stranger for the first time.
What should happen on a first date depends on how you imagine it to be and what you want to know and experience with the person you’re meeting.
Is it okay to kiss on the first date?
If you want to kiss on a first date depends on how you like the person or how comfortable you are. While some says and experts say, one shouldn’t kiss on the first date but if the right moment comes, why not let it happen and let sparks fly.
Kissing a person enables you to know if there’s really a chemistry between you two. So let those lips lock.
‼️ Do and don’ts on first date
✅ Be yourself.
✅ Don’t be late.
✅ Don’t talk about your exes.
✅ Be polite and positive.
✅ Don’t talk about yourself all the time.
✅ Listen actively and show interest by asking questions.
What to do on a first date with a guy you met online
When meeting a stranger you’ve been writing with online, your own safety is very important. For a first date it’s better to meet at a café or at a restaurant or a park where there are people around.
I don’t have to emphasize it but sometimes you have a different view of the person in your mind and you might be disappointed when he’s not the one you’ve fantasized about. So be ready with those revelations once you meet him.
What is expected from a first date?
Since you agree in meeting a total stranger you met online, you would expect to have fun with the person and hope he feels the same way.
You would love to know if the attraction you felt for him online still exists during your date and that a second date is on the way, without voicing out those words. You would know and feel it based on his body reactions and how he treated you.
Published originally on December 3, 2024.
